I wanted to share an event that just happened today. We have been worried about the fighting between Isla and Tate for awhile.
Lately it has been both hitting each other. Needless to say, we were trying our best to figure out a good way to resolve the issue. We would ask Isla what else we could do, what would be the best way to tell Tate something, and so on. With Tate we would ask him to show us how he can be gentle and to use his words. After almost a year of them hitting each other today we had a HUGE breakthrough!!
Isla was playing with her baby doll and Tate's truck. Tate continued to pull her doll out of the truck. Isla said very politely,
"Tate please stop that, I don't like that." Which I was very happy about, but then while Isla had her back to him, he hit her (very hard on the back). She was about to cry, and also appeared to be getting angry. Now this where the most amazing thing happened. She turned around and asked Tate if he would like a hug. A HUG ~ !! Tate took the hug and then turned away and played with
something else. THIS WAS AMAZING ~ !! It feels so wonderful to see how Isla has grown so much and was able to stop herself and handle herself so very well.
I was shocked. I then said to Isla that it seemed like a wonderful idea to give Tate a hug, that he seemed to just have wanted her attention. Isla then said, "Yeah, Tate wanted me to play with him, but I was doing something else, so I gave him a hug and now he can play by himself." AMAZING ~ !!
